A Guide by Fat Femme Frisky & Lexual Romance

Does the thought of someone sniffing your panties get you *wet*? Does it really excite you to think about some extra cash from a fun little side hustle? If you answered yes to either of those questions, you may have considered monetizing your worn knickers. 

As sex workers and openly sex positive individuals, one of the most frequent questions we get from people looking to make a quick, easy buck is “How do I sell my dirty panties?” Well, it may surprise you to find that the answer is neither quick nor easy. Selling used panties (and other items) is a foray into sex work that is requires both know-how and finesse. But fear not- below, Lexi and Frisky brief you on everything you need to know to sell your briefs.

Why do you really wanna sell panties? 

Before diving into any business undertaking, it’s always a good idea to examine your motivations. Used skivvies sales are no different. Although there are a variety of reasons to consider any vocational venture, many of the people asking us this question are considering selling panties as a seemingly easy way to supplement their income. The idea of profiting off of something you’re already doing in your everyday life is certainly appealing, however, we’re both here to tell you: if you are simply looking to make a quick buck, this ain’t it. 

A woman wearing striped underwear

Are you okay with being a sex worker? 

Perhaps the most important question you want to ask yourself before starting is whether or not you’re really okay with being a sex worker. Sex work is a broad term that incorporates a huge spectrum of providing sexual services for money- from selling your used clothes to stripping to full service escorting. Although many people are conditioned to have a value judgement based on what type of sex work you’re dealing with (subtext: research the Whorearchy), but the bottom line is that the sale of any type of sexual service constitutes sex work. Whether you are selling some kind of physical service, selling sexual content, or selling an item being used for fetish purposes, you are involved in sex work. “But I’m not selling my body!” “But it’s all online!” “But it’s just panties”- yup, still sex work. 

There is absolutely nothing in wrong with being a sex worker, but it is important to understand the distinction and think over the risks involved. Are you ok with possibly being connected with sex work by potential employers? Family? Friends? Another thing to consider is although you might be ok with it, there may be situations where you may face discrimination based on your status as a sex worker. This can include job and housing screening, legal implications, and even in medical care circumstances. It is imperative that you understand there is no situation in which you are 100% safe from ever being discovered, even in the realm of online sex work. Know the risks and use them to inform your decision. 

Doing the safety dance

Beginning a career in any sort of sex work comes with it’s own unique set of considerations. First and foremost, you want to be sure that you are starting off by concerning yourself with safety- start with separate email, social media, and payment method usernames. Consider using a VPN. Educate yourself about metadata attached to photos. Do you need to invest in a post office box? These are just things that you need to factor in when considering your personal safety. Another big one to decide is where will you be age verified? Cam sites, paid subscription sites like OnlyFans or AVN, even phone sex sites like Niteflirt and SextPanther require age verification and are a good way to show your client that you are legit and of legal age.

A woman holding a bagged pair of socks. Bagging your goods keeps them “fresher” longer.

Know the challenges (and trials and tribulations)

Who are you going to sell panties to? What is going to set you apart? Making sex work profitable is often a numbers game, so it is important to think over what your “brand” will be when beginning to make your social media profiles. Oh. Did we mention that you need social media profiles? Because you NEED THEM. Marketing yourself is difficult in an ever-expanding maze of figuring out vanilla and sex-work centric social media and sales platforms. Familiarize yourself with each site/platform/payment method’s terms of service. Know how to traverse these guidelines and have a game plan for each. If you will be managing different “brands” over different platforms, you’ll have to keep up with all of that- so have a plan of attack. Also, you might want to do a quick check that whatever name you’ve chosen for yourself isn’t already being used by an active model.

More notes on social media platforms- the majority of sites are seriously tightening their bans on ANY sex work related content, even anything that may be alluding to sex work. Platforms such as Instagram and Facebook even have bans on discussing sexual arousal. It’s a dangerous game to play with the rules being constantly shifted, So having one (or many) back up plans is a good business practice.

When it comes to building a marketing plan, research is your best friend. Start by following other sex workers who are doing similar work to what you’d like to do. You might even consider tipping other sex workers to ask questions or buying instructional seminars or classes. There are many resources out there to learn about marketing including some made for sex workers specifically!

An often overlooked aspect of panty selling is the need for quality images. No matter where you’re selling, most clients expect at least some photos of you wearing the product. There are definitely exceptions to this rule, but in large, without an already-established presence as a sex worker, you’re going to have to include some media with your sales. This is also a good opportunity to flex your creative side- not only can you have a little fun with taking the photos and videos, but these can be a part of your “add on” services- adding video or custom photo requests can really drive up the price of your product. Learn your camera angles and maybe even invest in some decent lighting! 

Many people think that they can go into panty sales without having to put their face out there to the universe. Sure, there are ways where you can creatively maintain some semblance of anonymity. However, if you are going faceless, you must seriously consider how this will (not may) impact your sales. Not to mention the fact that you’re going to be badgered about this by clients literally constantly- so patience is a must! Remember that when you are selling used clothes, many folks are not just looking for a garment, they’re looking for fantasy fulfilment or an experience. 

A woman wearing boy shorts from behind.

Where should I put these? 😉

The “where” in selling panties is actually getting larger by the day. Doing a google search for “sell used panties” comes up with quite a few options, and it can be worth looking into each site specifically to compare. If you’re looking to sell through one of those sites, do some research into percentages they may take and what their internal traffic looks like. 

You can also sell directly through social media channels like Twitter and Reddit. Reddit has many communities dedicated to sex work or panty selling specifically, but you have to be consistent to get your posts to stand out among all the others. Selling directly can be good because you can avoid cuts being taken as they would on dedicated sites, but you also have to be careful about what you use for payment processing. Most payment apps and sites prohibit their use for sex, so if you do plan to go that route make sure tell your clients NEVER to mention anything sex work/sales related when they are paying you! 

It’s all about money

Pricing is probably one of the most pivotal subjects that you will breach when you are thinking about the sales of used items. You want to be competitive and have prices that are somewhat approachable (in terms of the market averages) if you are worried more about the quantity of sales. Surely we are sounding like a broken record at this point, but do your research. Look at the pricing of other sex workers in your area or in your particular niche to get an idea of a reasonable price range. It may be helpful to create some sort of menu for potential buyers with a list of your “services”. Some important points to consider when pricing your product are the cost of goods. Are you marketing luxury lingerie sales or are you just selling cheapie panties from a pack? Are you catering to fetishes like toilet play, panty stuffing, scent fetishes, period play, etc. Will you be selling these panties/socks/whatever as a package with photos or other media? All of these factors will affect your pricing, as well as the market you’re selling in. You really have to examine every single aspect of your little business- this is where the adage “sex work is work” comes in to play!

Another thing to consider when pricing your wet, nasty panties is where you’re going to be selling them. Are you going to use one of the many sites available to sell your undies? Will you be going DIY and selling via Reddit or Twitter? When considering the platform with which you will sell your wares (wears, lol), it is important to consider the percentage that the site will take of each sale versus what benefits that particular site has to offer. Oftentimes big name sites will have a good user base, offer seller protections or perks, etc- just another component to that giant research list you’re making, right?

Another tip that we can give you is to be wary of internet scams. Sex work is an industry that tends to be more rife with timewasters and scammers than other customer service or sales jobs, so it is important to keep a keen eye out. No matter the platform, there will always be people looking to take advantage of you. Always receive payment upfront for services and trust your intuition: if it seems fishy, don’t do it. There are also clients who may claim they haven’t received the panties even though they did, so put a plan in place for what you’ll do in case this happens. 

A woman holding up worn striped socks

What else you got?

Up until now we have just been talking about panties, but we also wanted to mention that there’s a wide market for used clothing and other items outside of just your underwear. Dirty socks, shoes, slippers and anything that goes on your feet is another popular one. Work out clothes, clothing that’s been soiled with urine or even menstrual blood are other niches. If you want to differentiate yourself, it may be worth looking into doing something more specific. Think outside the box. Selling a variety of unique items can differentiate your brand as well as your expand market (and hopefully your pockets).

Draw your own conclusions!

So what have we learned, class? Selling panties is unfortunately not the quick and easy way to make a buck that pop culture has made it out to be-but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done! Sex work is work that everyone can technically do- but it’s not a good fit for everyone, and that’s ok! If you read this article and you were more excited than you began- chances are, you might have what it takes to join the ranks of millions of sex workers worldwide who are doing the dang thing! Temper your expectations, do your research, make a detailed plan of action, and flesh it out- get out there and mention your unmentionables to the whole wide world!

Frisky is a silly and sadistic Femdomme with a penchant for findom and a mean streak a mile wide. You can reach her at allmylinks.com/fatfemmefrisky

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