My Autistic BDSM Journey

My Autistic BDSM Journey

When Lexi asked me to write this piece, I figured, “Sure, no problem.  I’ve been in BDSM a long time, and I’ve been autistic even longer.” Both of these are topics I think about incessantly; both are topics on which I’ve actually done some research.  Frankly, if...

A Scene I’ll Never Forget

This may be the story of one of the most meaningful kink experiences I’ve ever had. It’s certainly one of the most intense. If you’ve been listening to me on OCP or  if you’ve heard my interviews on other BDSM and sexuality podcasts, you’ve probably heard me tell this...

Three Kinks I Discovered While Hosting Off the Cuffs

When Dick and I started Off the Cuffs three and a half years ago, I was pretty set in my ways. I knew which kinks I was into, which kinks didn’t turn me on at all, and shamefully, which ones I found “weird.”Three and a half years later and that’s all out the window....

Five Songs You Didn’t Know Were Kinky

So, you’ve been listening to “Off the Cuffs” for a while now and you’ve decided to try this BDSM thing that Dick and I keep talking about. You got yourself a FetLife account, went to the local munch, and met someone who wants you to cuff them to your bed, give them a...

On Community

This July marked the fifth consecutive year that I attended TES Fest and the third year (if not in a row)that I served as part of the volunteer security team. Working security at this fetish convention hasalways been a bittersweet experience for me; to be entirely...